Starsky- igit hear! I went on the walk to Emmaus this weekend a 4 day Methodist walk for men. . It was an unbelievable moving time spiritually! I know in my heart my W always wanted us to be a strong Christian based family. The signs were there from her and I just ignored them! Always put my own interest first! Now I am paying the price! I know its never to late to be the man I am supposed to be! I realized this weekend where I have fallen short in my role as a husband! It was quite an awakening! I know the DB program is a about fixing me! Sometimes it takes a while to figure that out! I have a new feeling about my sitch! I gave it all over to the man upstairs and will just work through him!
M 54 W 48 T 19 M 17 D 12 Twin S 6 Twin S 6 Ilybnilwy 1/26/14 A discovered 2/3/14 D filed 7/25/14 Sumons served 8/14/14
Yes I did a few weeks ago. No news yet on a prelim hearing or anything! Craziness rt now! She called me today and was all upbeat and positive! asked if I could help out with kids after school since she has some work stuff to catch up on. she also brought up my retreat weekend! I told her it was something I would talk to her about sometime and left it at that. when I got home last night she was trying to start small talk! The kids were excited to see me! I hung out with them for a while and put them to bed! I was glad to give her a chance to have kids to herself Thur thru sunday night! No contact with me! The longest period in 19yrs where no communication! The kids were really happy to see me when I got home and wouldn't leave me alone! It was a great feeling!
M 54 W 48 T 19 M 17 D 12 Twin S 6 Twin S 6 Ilybnilwy 1/26/14 A discovered 2/3/14 D filed 7/25/14 Sumons served 8/14/14
Wmwb123, I am no vet but I don't think it was a bad thing informing your fil in on the sitch. I know it goes against DB guide line, but a good dad could be a great help. I mean what would a good dad say to a D wanting a D. Especially if c she respect s him. You have shared your sitch with fil.just sit back and see what he does. I don't know if its a great idea to continually be calling about the sitch. Hey your fil is glad someone told him hang tuff,be patient and let God deal with your w for awhile.
M 54 W 48 T 19 M 17 D 12 Twin S 6 Twin S 6 Ilybnilwy 1/26/14 A discovered 2/3/14 D filed 7/25/14 Sumons served 8/14/14
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
I keep reading that women rarely change their mind about leaving. But I also read another "expert" that said that simply wasn't true. So which is it? Is it less hopeful when it's the wife leaving?
M 16 T 17 W moved in w/ AP (OW) 5/14 ILYBNIL 5/14 A discovered 6/14 D papers served via USPS 8/14 Filed my response 9/14 D final 5/15...
"I keep reading that women rarely change their mind about leaving. But I also read another "expert" that said that simply wasn't true. So which is it? Is it less hopeful when it's the wife leaving?"
Both. Look, every situation is different. We all have free will. You can't say that if you do X, Y, Z, your W is sure to come back. Anyone who tells you that they can predict exactly that your W is coming back or not is a fool. I've seen situations that seemed absolutely hopeless, but they worked out. That's how life is. That's why it's important for you to not have expectations and leave it to the Man upstairs.
"And is it common for the unfaithful spouse to try to avoid all contact from the day they leave?"
Yes. It's like ripping a bandaid off a wound. The faster they get it over with, the quicker it is for them to not change their mind or think of consequences.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Dont let Satan get you down. Thats him talking right now. Hes talking to me too.
Stay strong. We've been praying together and praising God and bringing Him into this strongly, the enemy is on the attack. Resist. It's taking all that I have to stay strong, too.
Keep praying. Rule #33. "Do not give up no matter how dark it is or how bad you feel."
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
