too late?

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Can I ask a question and sorry if this is in DB but I'm still waiting fr or Amazon to deliver my copy.

One of the issues seems to be that my wife hasn't forgiven me for things that I've done wrong. I have apologised countless tines though I expect I have always cone across sounding like I'm trying to justify myself.

I'm now thinking that I should handwrite her an apology (actually a series if apologies) that clear set out what I did wrong and fully apologise for this without making any excuses or expectations. I would hope that she sees these as genuine but as much as anything it will ease my conscience.

So here's the question. Is this a good idea? Or should I write them but not give them?

Interesting question. If you've already apologized there's no need to continue that. I think what tripping you up is you have an expectation that because you apologized she is bound to forgive you. Untrue. She may forgive, she may not, completely outside your control.

Apologizing is only a part of the process, changing the actions that caused the need for an apology is the most important part. And it is a process, even if she decides to forgive, it won't happen overnight.

Anyone can say the words, not everyone can or is willing to change.