Wife Still in MLC but has now left #4

[bdub]

Matt and Mach,
Early in our MR my wife said " score points, make a decision" She said it 100 times the first 3 years. I took that and ran. Today, she says " you were treating me like you are my father. Always making all the decisions and I never get any input. You took me for granted and never let my needs come first"

Just this week she left the oven on, forgot to lock the doors, missed getting s10 to practice on time, forgot a dr. appointment and left the dog outside all night. (hes an inside dog) and almost missed picking up s10 from practice last night.(I called to remind)

What do I do? As long as her struggles do not affect the boys I let them go. Sooner of later, I am going to have to "drop the rope" Is it fair to her and us to just let it all go all at once? I trained her to depend on me, basically. Can I just step aside and watch since I had a huge role in it?

I am pretty controlling. I admit that. I have let some of it go but it is a struggle every minute of every day. I watched my older brother struggle in life because he was very "reactionary". Life ran him over basically.