Need help. Scared, confused, and hurting.

[wmwb123]

Time for a new username then. It's never healthy to NEED another person. Our spouse should be the frosting on our already purpose-filled cake of a life, not the cake itself.

"I WANT my wife back, but I don't NEED her -- not the marriage we had before, for sure. I WANT to build a new marriage with her, that is better than before, but I realize now that if that doesn't happen, I will be okay" is what you're shooting for.

Of course, it takes awhile to get there.


Starsky

Thanks, Starsky. Yes, that username was what I came up with shortly after she left, and I was a wreck. I'm past that now. I no longer "need" her in the sense that I can't live without her. A lot has changed in the past four months.