I was chatting with Mach about this, and he told me something that really, really, pissed me off (yeah Mach, I was pissed... )..."You do realize, that THAT contributed to her being where she is, right?"
But I'm her H, a man, that is what we are supposed to do!!!...right Matt?
Nothing wrong, or dishonorable in that...
I still hold that value strongly, but Mach 's little truth dart made me dig deeper to SEE why...
Awww....Deuce...That must have been hard for you....
I'm sorry....(((((hugs))))))
: )
Matt, he is right though..
And what I am talking about when I say, it is about HOW we go through this that matters...
It is changing HOW we handle things...
Another way to let this sink in....
Is that we, as Men, are pre-programmed from the factory, to fulfill that role.
And over time, we tend to take over that role, and run with it. Forgetting to actually "ask" if it is okay or not. It comes across as control to another person, not only because of the lack of control that THEY feel, but also due to the lack of input that they have.
What it becomes, is OUR fix, for THEIR problems. And over time, it can become quite damaging...
And it doesn't matter if it is true or not. It is true for them, and their truth feeds their emotions, thoughts, and actions....
