I did this exercise prior to BD, after she told me she thought our marriage was over, using Chapman's "When Sorry Isn't Enough" as a template. The earlier edition "Five Languages of Apology" is available free online.
I hadn't found DB/DR, yet.
The only response I got from W was "I know that it must have been difficult for you to write those things." That was after the first letter. I got no response to the second.
She basically validated me. However, I don't think that it hurt any, and long term, it might help. YMMV.
Last edited by Shakspr; 09/29/1402:31 PM.
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20