This morning went "ok". My wife went to work in my vehicle because I needed to take hers to the garage after I dropped my daughter off at daycare.
My copy of DB should be here any day, but should I have gotten DR first? Or doesn't it really matter?
I feel it is going to be VERY difficult for me to detach completely since that was one of her original complaints. I feel like detaching is cold and heartless and that bothers me deeply. I am working on the GAL part for me as I am going to start back to martial arts training that I gave up years ago. I still want my black belt (only two belts away). I also plan on continuing my regular workouts and possibly get back into music. I already have Wednesday nights set aside for my daughter as I usually take her to the park to play while my wife goes to her exercise class.
I feel I need to still be loving towards my wife but need to do so without being needy or clingy. I'm hoping the DB book will help me find a balance between needy and cold, if that makes sense?. I understand it is going to take time and patience. Time can be my friend. Patience is hard....but I must do it!

I will continue to be the husband I should be and the best father I can be. I will enjoy my own time and allow my wife to do things as she wishes without watching her every move and expect her to do a 180

For the past couple months it seems as I am the only one making any effort. Any time we discuss our relationship , she constantly thrives on the past negatives.....several of which I don't even recall. I just have to realize that is where she is at and that is her way of justify wanting out and leaving. I know people on here have been waiting years and it's only been moths for me. We haven't physically separated yet so I'm hoping I still have an advantage . I know she has separated emotionally though, and that is a huge road block.

Sorry for the rambling, just trying to clear my thoughts and posting here helps me with that.


me-42
w-33
d-3
together-6
m-4yr
6/1/14-w check out
6/15/14-EA?
8/1/14-mc
9/1/14-IDLY-started DBing
9/15/14-w suggest separation
10/17/14 wife is done
12/13/2014 - wife move out
me file 1/1/15