It is good that you are now taking the time to consider things rather than reacting.
I believe reacting is a learned trait. Being a protector, as ts pointed out, puts you in many situations that lead to reacting. Because it is a learned trait, I also believe we can unlearn it. I am having too and I think you are starting too.
Once you stop reacting then you will be on the road to detaching.
We both also need to stop being the protector. We have to stop trying to carry them. Let them deal with the good, bad, and ugly like everyone else. Don't try to soften the landing. Let them feel reality.
Twisting on Life's Rope Me53 W53 M20 D21 D19 D16 BD 2-2013 D final 1-2015 _________________________ "Dream about tomorrow, Live for today, Learn from yesterday"
