Can I get her back??..

[LoveMyW]

Hi LoveMyW.

You've got remember that a big part of facebook is a competition of people trying to make out they have the best life. Its basically public gloating.

She is also probably liking this stuff about 'life is to short' because it fits with her coping mechanism. I accept that I'm probably mind reading on your behalf but I would say when kids are involved the person who doesn't want to work at it is either completely heartless or will be looking for ways to justify things to them self

I'm sure someone who knows a lot more about this stuff than I do would say to not worry about what she is doing, do what you need to do to make you happy.

Don't get me wrong its really (censored) hard - I'm struggling that my W seems to be going out and getting blind drunk once a week and that her mates are trying to fix her up with other men. Made worse by the fact that I've been trying to get her to go out and enjoy herself for the last couple if years but she always had an excuse. I figure its about proving to herself that I'm the problem making what she is doing easier for her. But still all that dwelling on that does is feed my insecurities and make me less attractive (I'm less good at hiding this than I thought I was).

So back to the point - work on your own GAL'g and do things that make you happy.

Thanks for your reply Jim..

I know what you are saying about FB being a weeing contest, but she never used to be like that on there, and that is whats getting up my nose!!.. I don't intend to turn it in to the contest between us either as I want people to see that I am the better person in that respect, even though I am more than likely looking too much in to it..

You could well be right about it being a coping mechanism too.. When I bought it up early in the S, W has said she has always liked stuff like that, but TBH I never really noticed before (but I don't really pay all that much attention to FB so she probably has).. She hasn't blatantly said she doesn't want to work on M, but has said "she is happy with her life at this point in time"..

I am trying to do what makes me happy as much as I can.. I'm just having a bit of a rollercoaster moment as I am missing my kids, and missing W as well.. I am detaching as much as I can, but sometimes the feelings fight their way back through..

Yes, I have read your sitch, and what your W is doing, and I am sad at what she is putting you through.. Fortunately, my W hasn't been doing that, and I don't think her friends would be trying to fix her up either, but I can't be certain as I am not there..

I'm showing PMA in our chats, even though it is almost NC at the moment (my choice).. Yes, I'll keep to my GAL'ing!!..