WAW - no contact, now refuses therapy, file?

[AWAW]

Spent Fri-Sun with W. Lots of serious convo mixed in with light/fun. Started at happy hour downtown where she asked to come home this weekend, I said that was too soon and she got mad, started crying at the bar, and tried to flip it on my by saying I'm just another person to let her down. Didn't fall for it. I firmly told her I understood how she felt but taking our time was the right thing, slowly talking about other things we need to focus on and before we'd know it we would be ready to live together again. This was weird since all I've wanted was my W AS to be back but it was the right thing to do.

So we went home, had some wine, talked about focusing on rebuilding our connection/attraction while sprinkling in serious talk. She stayed 2 nights and we went to brunch, dinner (date night) where she got all dressed up and we went out and did some fun activities too. Hooked up all weekend long, like when we first fell in love 7 years ago. Bittersweet since we had some pretty intense conversations mixed in but whenever it got too heavy we agreed to take a break.

Both realize there's a lot to work on but this is a hell of a start. I was in the 11th hour of filing for divorce then bam! So, when they say have pacience, it's true. Also, stand your ground when it comes to boundaries. My wife's eye perked when I was firm and told her I was taking the lead in this. She admitted she rushed in her decision and thought it was the only choice she had. Now we're slowly getting on the same page. Still okay with whatever happens but we'll continue to ease into this over the next few weeks before she moves back in.