Thank you so much for the kind words and for stopping by, CG & Wonka.

"I will never love another the way I loved her."

I feel the same way CG, that's why I'm still in this thing.
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Friday night us kids had an Anniversary party for my parents. 55 years married! W made a dish, and got there before me because I had to work late. We do all family events together. There was plenty of food, hugging, and joking around. A good time was had by all.

Saturday I spent much of the day working at a charity event in my hometown. I enjoyed meeting and talking with many appreciative people. After telling me how talented and handsome I was, one woman asked me if I was married. I answered, "Yes I am, but we're still newlyweds... we've only been married 31 years!" She laughed and replied that the good ones are always taken!

Wonka, don't tell mach or cat, grin but I tried touching W a few times. No comment from her, but her body language said still not interested. (D'oh!)

I initiated a discussion of the future, and mentioned again how I am planning for earlier financial independence and retirement. As part of a Reality Dart, I told W I likely would no longer desire to buy her out of our (paid for) home if we split up, because it wouldn't fit into my plan. She commented about the present value of the home and the merits of keeping it, but said nothing regarding the possibility of "splitting up".

Life is great. I truly feel I have everything I need or desire. W and I get along well, share details of our days, do things for each other. The only thing missing is the physical intimacy. We seem a perfect match in all areas but this one.

I see firsthand and clearly how someone can end up staying in a SSM.

How can I tell if W will ever come around physically?

As of now, she seems quite content with NO sexual partners. Based on certain comments and songs she sings, I would say she is still in crisis/depression to some degree. I don't believe one can fully love others, until they can love themselves.

Bust On, my friends.

Last edited by ForeverYoung; 09/29/14 04:09 AM.
M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl