Oh Dev. Sorry you're going through this. Looks like she's hitting rock bottom. Does she have an IC/MC to talk to? Would she accept a suggestion to get some counselling? You could even offer to pay for a couple sessions if you think it would do her good. Don't call it rescuing. Call it investing in rebuilding your marriage. Just a thought.
M: 59 W: 53 M: 9 yrs T: 14 yrs No kids together but D30(hers), S27, S24, D21(all 3 mine) W moved out 11/18/2013 D-Day 12/14/2013 W moved back home 12/1/2014