That's awesome advice. I will try it next time I am able to have a conversation.
Been a tad stressful this weekend. My W had the kids, I showed up for swimming, and she was crying. Suggested she has no friends, and all her friends are in miserable marriages. I had to STFU to not say "aren't you happier now" I didn't get a chance to speak to my kids until the next day. Turns out my W was sick and hungover. Couldn't drive. I was asked to take my daughter to ballet. I came back to find my W and two of my kids in the house already. She was a mess, and my daughter refused to go to ballet.
I tried to convince her, but it didn't work. I ended up going out. I offered to take the kids for the night if she wasn't feeling up to it. She declined. I had to leave before i made any mistakes.
I completely changed my plans when my daughter called asking me to take her to ballet because mom couldn't drive. I don't have any problem doing this. But to come home and find my W in the house hung over I found a bit much.
Obviously, she's not in a good place. I hope she finds her peace and gets to a happier and safer place. It's tough to watch someone you have cared about for so long go through all this.
