It's important to keep talking about this and trying to resolve it with a MC or sex therapist. Because even if you manage to stay together and maintain a good marriage in every other respect, I can tell you what can happen over a period of a few years or more.
Right now you have tension in your marriage because your H sees sexual rejection as personal, and he still sees you as a sexual person. But he will eventually learn that it is not personal. Which is good news, and bad news. The good news is that he won't take it personally. But the bad news is that he has then separated his sexual attraction for you from personal feelings for you. And because of the 100's or even 1000's of sexual rejections, there will be a sort of negative conditioning about his sexual feelings for you and you will seem more like a sister to him. Someone who has a kind of "no sex" aura about her. It will be unconscious, but eventually his advances will drop off because he knows it's probably not going to be rewarded. But he'll still love you. It's simple conditioning.
Now that doesn't mean his interest in sex generally has been diminished. He will be just as interested in porn, other women, or whatever.
This is one possible scenario, with which I have personal experience. Your and your H's mileage may vary.
