Maybell I haven't tried that approach but it sounds intriguing.
I have re read DB and DR with a different perspective. I really feel there is a lot I have changed but I still have so much work to do on myself. I started posting here in April 2 months after BD but I didn't really start 'getting it' until June. I can't believe it's been almost 2 months with H back in my life. We have come so far but when others said piecing was the hardest part they weren't lying!
I actually have heard of that book. I will look into it. I was thinking of asking H to take the 5LL even though I'm pretty certain he's words of affirmation and physical touch but I would like to see to make sure.
This is definitely a work and progress but we bth want the same things and both don't ever want to be where we were for those 6 months. It's not an easy road but we are trying to navigate it together.
