I don't mean you should be a doormat or conflict-avoidant. I guess I'm saying that responding to hostility with kindness takes the bullets out of her guns. Not being defensive is huge, too.
If she says you're not caring when she's upset, then read up on the Validation Cheat Sheet that Wonka posted. You can practice responses that express caring. I find rehearsing answers helps like these helps me so much.
M:54, H:55 T:33, M:27 12/13 BD: EA 01/14 BD: PA, H leaves 03/14 H & OW break up 05/14 H says he will file for D 08/14 H initiates D 09/14 H wants to R 12/14 Still bungling our way through R
