Having EXPECTATIONS of this is unrealistic. Lose the expectations and live how you want to live.
"but I feel like the detaching isn't bothering her at all.....maybe just making I seem as if I'm ok with everything."
Do you understand what detachment is? It's not a ploy to get her to think of you. Detachment is for YOU not your W. It's detaching YOUR emotions from the situation so you don't feel hurt from every little thing you perceive she is doing to destroy your relationship. You give power to her actions not her.
As an example... if a total stranger came up to you and started yelling at you and called you a loser and said they didn't love you, you'd probably shake your head, chuckle and walk off without it bothering you. That's because you don't give their words any power. Your W is no different than that stranger. She's just a woman not some queen or your boss, yet you give power to her words so that you end up being a quivering mass of fear.
Detach your emotions from her and you'll be able to ignore her actions.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
