She will not stay on even keel. Your job is to make nothing out of these little things that may look like a normal wife & mother. It's like a cafeteria menu.......subject to change.
The LBH can easily set himself up for disappointment whenever he has certain desired expectations or he misinterprets some action by her.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!