It isn't up for negotiation. You aren't being mean.. Just tell him you aren't going to do it anymore.. So, you decided to hire it done.
I've learned over the years that when I hire a contractor or need something done at my house that if the contractor is late to the appointment to give me a quote that this is a red flag. Chances are he will be late to do the work, or not finish the work, or not follow through on most everything.. I have found to just eliminate them right off the bat... They aren't worth the "cheaper" price... I am more satisfied to pay someone more money who is on time, does what they say they will do. This has saved me a ton of headaches.. Just eliminate them if they don't show promptness and organization. It isn't worth the aggravation to save money.... Same goes for hiring friends or family just to save money.. It usually just isn't worth the aggravation...
Same goes with your husband.. Here you think you are saving money and it is causing you both tons of aggravation.. Is that worth your marriage? I say NO..
PAY someone who will get it done. Problem solved....
