To DB or not to DB, is it really a question?

[Shakspr]

Yes, Jim. You hit the nail on the head. Could it be that some of us who suppress our emotions and try to maintain the illusion of control are more likely to be LBS? And now, terrified, we are unable to stop emoting? Additionally, our partners who we sometimes saw as weaker because they allowed emotion to govern (in our minds) far too much of their lives, now have no feelings for us whatsoever. No positive ones, anyway, that they are willing to share.

My pastor calls our (LBS) behaviors that lead to this, and other similar life situations "Optimistic denial" - I tend to agree with him. I am a conflict avoider, under-rug sweeper, and it's come back to bite me.