Thank you, 2B. It is a thoughtful process, for sure....I'm hoping I'll look back on this time, and be grateful for these lessons. Right now, it's not so fun.
It's kind of like childbirth....like there's this excruciating pain one has to go through, to "birth" this new chapter of life..... I want an epidural, stat.
Ok, DB Dream-team,
Question regarding detachment, for anyone who has really gotten there....you, know, muffins and bacon and stuff:
For the most part, I'm ok being alone. It's not my preference, but I'm not running out there finding dates to fill this void.
I'm feeling this deep pit in my gut, and it boils down to the loss of companionship. That I don't have my best friend anymore just to bounce ideas off of, share funny moments about the kids or the dog, just everyday life things.
I know better than to go out and find a bandaid for my pain.
I think what I'm missing is the feeling of being connected to others. Besides this board, I have my kids and their activities, and no real outside connections.
I'm laying low with my IL's, and they know this and respect me for it. We were very close prior to S.
My friends are neutral, and respectful. But the sense that there's this elephant in the room, topic of H and I.... Makes it difficult to just "be". That's my own discomfort, I know. I am not "evolved" enough yet, for lack of better term, to be ok in my own skin around those that know our sitch. I'm getting there, but it won't happen overnight.
So, back to my question.......
What are some ways to overcome this feeling of disconnectedness?
How have others done this? (Assuming I didn't invent it. )
Once I'm more confident, I'm guessing it will get easier. Even if I felt 100% amazing about myself, I would still want to be connected to others.
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