Also, I do believe I have decided against moving to where H is. I have no support system there (I certainly can't count on H to be it) and there really is no reason to believe he will be a better father than he has been. Heck, he hasn't even tried to call the kids since he left on Tuesday morning. He truly has run away from them as much as me (although he would vehemently deny this). I do believe he would consider it pursuing behavior and, if I am truly honest with myself, I think it is as well. I still want him to want me, need me and love me (thanks Cheap Trick for that amazing song!). Also, moving there would mean that the OW who is only in my imagination right now (she exists in reality but I don't know anything about her) would be in my real life and also my kids and I am in no way ready for that. I am researching moving to a less expensive home but maybe I shouldn't even do that, as it would reduce my cost which could reduce the support order.
Me- 40 H- 41 S8, D5, S4 M 19 y T 23 Bomb drop 6/2013 H asked for/filed for D 9/2014 22 yo OW discovered 9/19/14 they're engaged and living together
