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[Bart42]

Thanks Sandi- really appreciate your perspective here.

That may be your interpretation but I think you are mistaken.

So I should be more positive that the GAL is being noticed? Would appreciate your thoughts on other interpretations of her statement. I really wasn't sure how to take it because it wasn't "I want to join you" or "I like that too" but more "I want to do my own thing too" (forget that my activities center around building my character or doing new things with our kids, and hers involved a bar, but I digress....)

Well unless you said it to sound like.....or unless you had the look on your face like an a'hole, why do you think that action appeared as one? It sounds like a good topping to her deer in headlights scene.

I'm generally most worried about being too soft (my fist posts show what a softie I can be!), so when taking a stand I'm constantly worried I will over do it- one of my historic problems was arguing about virtually everything and creating a stressful home environment- so I am trying hard to be respectful and calm, but tough, in my dealings with W. I personally feel I struck the right balance and had a very even delivery- no doubt with a touch of emotion but I think that came through as compassion, not anger, so I think it was good.

Later tonight more crap from W about me allegedly txting OM's GF (I didn't and haven't since discovering A continued) so its clearly not paradise on the other side of the fence, but I refused to even talk about that one with her. Just told her the continued lies will hurt my ability to deal with her effectively when co-parenting our children.

Taking S for a great father/son day tomorrow so I'm just gonna focus on that- will remind W we need to set for mediatror when I get home.