So how do I detach but still show her love? I started detaching Tuesday after our counseling session. I haven't told her I love her, I haven't held her hand . When we got home I told the sitter I wouldn't need sitter Friday night. (Had planned a date night for wife and I but she didn't know). Later she asked what the Friday night thing was....I told her about the plans..... She cried and said "so you're done?" I said no but made sure she knew that I understand she wants me to back off.
I want her to initiate SOMETHING. but I feel like the detaching isn't bothering her at all.....maybe just making I seem as if I'm ok with everything.
I usually buy her flowers every time I go grocery shopping for the week....but I didn't this week. I feel like I'm acting cold frown

I'm
Confused

me-42
w-33
d-3
together-6
m-4yr
6/1/14-w check out
6/15/14-EA?
8/1/14-mc
9/1/14-IDLY-started DBing
9/15/14-w suggest separation
10/17/14 wife is done
12/13/2014 - wife move out
me file 1/1/15