I agree - HTIYMWTAI is an enlightening read though it made me feel sick to the stomach to read at times. I too felt shame that I contributed to this dynamic in our M. I'm so frustrated that I didn't find these books before things fell off the deep end. As you say Ss, all we can do is hope that we can get another shot at this as our new enlightened selves.
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014