Yes, I got she was living in your other house, but I thought you were paying the bills b/c of what you said in another post. So anyway, thanks for clearing that up.
I know it is hard not to react out of emotions. I struggle with it myself. When I get really mad, i just need to get off to myself to let off steam. The last thing I should do is open my mouth b/c I start spewing. There is no telling what I might say if I were in your shoes! That is why I suggested you focus on cooling off before anything else.
You see, just like when you read about the love languages, you immediately wanted to try it out with your wayward W, b/c you were excited about learning something that you felt would help your stitch. But when you found out about the OM with your kids, everything changed, understandably. In your next post you were saying you wete problably done. My point yesterday and now....is to wait until you really think through something new or different, whether it seems positive or not. Knee jerk reactions get us into trouble.
Never underestimate a wayward woman! Just b/c you give her the moon don't expect anything in return. She may be nice to you....but it doesn't mean she will give up anything.....or anyone.
I am really sorry you are going through this pain. I try to imagine how horrible it must be for you, but I know I can't even come close.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
