Do I walk away from WAW? (1)

[MrBond]

"The swift cold touch of mrbond!"

Not at all. It's just that I've seen too many people come here, explain how they are "DBing", yet have never read the book, then complain when their M doesn't work. There are no cutting corners with this and the basis of everything are the strategies detailed in the books.

"I'm aiming to pick up one of the books this weekend. Hopefully the used bookstore has one, seems likely right? Not a book that everyone hangs into forever I'd think."

And that shows your inexperience. It's not just a book about troubled M. It's a book that you should read even if you're in a good relationship and a book about LIFE changes that can be applied to everyone not just your spouse.

"I know I'm skipping steps, I only found this forum a few weeks ago, and I was just grateful to find a place to air this out with people who understand."

Yes and it was a few weeks of wasted time since you spent most of the time lamenting about your situation without doing the work to get your W back.

You can joke all you want about it. It's a sign of insecurity. Bottom line is that your W isn't home and you're alone. The books will help you to get that back. That is, unless you don't want it. The choice is yours.