I was planning on going semi-dark, and not contacting H first. Then I get a text from him while he was at work today.
Back story: his X has picked her new husband over the kids in a manner of ways, including when he put his hand around SD12's neck in an argument and pinning her to a wall. SD12's sister (X's daughter from another relationship) saw it happen. CPS was called, X claimed that it didn't happen and both SD12 and her sister were lying, picking him over them. SD12 was with us for a while, ultimately they had to go to counseling and SD12 was allowed to go home with them. This was about three years ago.
So the transcript of today's texting is as follows:
HIM: "i don't want SD12 hanging out with [Coin], tell her to back the @#$% off or i will". That is from X, she sent it out of the blue today. why is she trying to call me over and over and texting me all of a sudden? She is such a @#$% head.
ME: She's insecure and taking it out on me, rather than being glad her child has positive influences that care about her. Sorry you have to deal with her. I don't know what the issue is. I mean, at least we know I won't choke her.
HIM: Yeah, no s@#$. LOL. Did you try to talk to X about SD12?
ME: Nope, not at all.
HIM: I think it's her husband as usual, giving her s##$#, so it's rolling down hill.
ME: He seems controlling, it's too bad..but I will respect what they want, because I have no choice.
ME: I don't expect her to get realizing I made mistakes and wanting to fix them, and knowing from that that SD12 is an amazing person. X is not a "learn lessons and better one's self" kind of a person.
HIM: The funny part is if she spent more time with SD12, she wouldn't have to cling to other people. I want you in her life, you're good for her.
Don't know what it means on the grand scheme, but....
BF:40 M:33 SD: 12 T: 8, never married, no kids together BD: 8/4, "I'm just done", "...too tired and burnt to try". PA confirmed 8/5 "It happened, but it's been over for almost a year".
