For months upon months I've been feeling like there is a piece to this puzzle I'm missing. W has admitted several times that she often behaves like someone who is having an affair, but has sworn up and down in the past that she's not and never has. Perfect example is I caught her in a lie a few weeks ago...well, I didn't exactly catch her because I didn't really do anything... W called me to say she had just gotten off work, but what she didn't know is that her boss had texted me two hours prior to say that W had left work without her phone and wanted to let me know so that W would know where her phone was.
Well, last night, the pieces finally came together. A coworker of hers accidentally blew W's cover and it turns out that for the past 7 months or so W has been blowing our money on cocaine. Going out to the bars several times a week, meeting up with her dealer (feels so weird writing that), getting drunk and wired and then coming home after I've gone to sleep. Got confirmation from W herself after she first denied denied and denied it some more. Certainly makes a lot of things make sense now. Not even sure how much of the truth I know, because looking back I can now see that W has often covered up one lie with another one. For all I know she's b@nging this guy in addition to buying coke from him. She's already on meds for depression and anxiety and isn't even supposed to be drinking while on them; throwing coke on top of that 3 or 4 days a week sure can't be good.
Meanwhile her IC and her lawyer have been advising her without either knowing anything about all of this.
Don't see much on the boards here about drug abuse/addiction...didn't even see too much about in the DR and DB books.
Really not sure how to proceed...
H: 43 W: 37 M: 11 years T: 12 years S: 11 D: 8 ILYBINILWY, "I want to move out" and "I want a divorce": 3/23/14 MC started: 9/22/14 Affair and past infidelity discovered: 9/26/14 Piecing: 10/20/14
