[Maybell]

Sometimes the task can be just to sit with things and let them simmer until you know which path you want to take. Any 180s you try to pull from your H's perspectives are going to be mind-reading and unsustainable, so I don't recommend that one. I bet there are ways in which you've felt constrained in your marriage that can be 180s for now.

I read a relationship book a few months ago that pointed out that often the things that drive us most crazy about our spouses are the "flip sides" of the qualities that drew us to them. It's like the technique Vossy uses to pull herself out of a spin. Hmm...