Wife having emotional affair part 2

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I hope someone else chimes in here soon. I don't know exactly how to approach this topic. All I can say is that if I saw OM driving my kids around I would react. Honestly, I think it needs to be a STRONG reaction. If you witnessed this, and it is in fact 100% true talk to a law enforcment agency or a L to see what your options are.

If I saw my kids in a car with a total stranger I would have every police cruiser in town on that car because as far as you know someone has kidnapped your kids.

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He is not a "total stranger". so your response would be very inappropriate. NO, I am NOT defending the choice to have OM driving the kids around

and I sense the need to repeat that, so, NO I AM NOT saying it's okay for OM to drive them around.

I'm saying he's not a "total stranger" and IF the rules were not outlined before hand, if the "boundaries" were not clear, then they are not really boundaries, are they?

Perhaps we should ALL Read up on boundaries...
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Someone 2x4 me on this because that was a very emotional response on my part!

yes they are emotional responses now, and in the heat of the moment==those will rarely do us well.

But just know this, we all felt them at some point.

Seriously. We have all been there and it does sukk, but there are such things as "Clear boundaries."
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Your job, right now, is to find out what those look like.