With the reflective convo, after she makes her first statement just say, "ok I may be a little slow but I think what you're saying is ... [and then paraphrase what she just said]. Did I get that right?" And if she says "yes", then ask, "is there more?" Once she's done then try to empathize and say something like, "I can see what you're saying" and then, "wow, that must have made you feel ... [unappreciated, hurt, degraded, unloved, etc..]. Did I get that right?" Then wait for correction if required. You see it's just trying to understand what she's saying and mirroring it back to let her know you're hearing her. Just a thought.
M: 59 W: 53 M: 9 yrs T: 14 yrs No kids together but D30(hers), S27, S24, D21(all 3 mine) W moved out 11/18/2013 D-Day 12/14/2013 W moved back home 12/1/2014
