Ok, not trying to be harsh or prying but........

Don't make this all about her.

What are you doing for you? What specifically do you need to work on?

Me: 35 husband:39
Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage
Twins 5 (boy/girl)
Daughter 3
Affair bomb 2/27/14
He moved in with ow 3/13/14
OW kicked him out 6/15/14
4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction