I am gonna go out on a limb here, and say that you are afraid that if you make too much progress, and go too far in the direction of YOU.... That you are afraid that she will never come and look for you, and that you will have moved too far ahead of her, and she won't/can't keep up...
Yes .. I think that might be it, Even through this whole thing I have mentally let her go on 3-4 occasions, things happened that either I was not sure I could get over/forgive (then I learned forgiving is for me not her) .... anyways, she would do a little cry for help, would see I was moving on and would get me atleast to stop walking away.
Originally Posted By: Mach1
And to answer that, you have to be TOTALLY honest with yourself...
Do you love her ?? Did you ever love her ??
How do you define love ??
What does it really mean to you ??
What did your actions say ??
Did they match your words ??
Do I love her, have I ever .... Yes I do, and still do. I have accepted that the past few years have not been wonderful, but I always look at her and still think like I did years ago ... "That's my girl and the one I will grow old with." Its been so hard watching her go through the medical issues, the mental issues, knowing I can only do so much, I handled alot of things wrong but looking back, I also handled alot of things right.
Originally Posted By: Mach1
Also, please go easy on yourself here too....
Question ....
Have you read the 5 love languages ???
I have read the 5LL , opened up alot for me and made me realize my language has not been filled for a long time, and I thought I was filling hers but was actually thinking it was the same as mine, that opened my eyes quite a bit.
