What to do when an EA involved?

[Hoju]

Thanks 24 I really appreciate all the advice you've given over the past couple of weeks. I think I have started to heal, her leaving the house has really pushed me out of denial and into acceptance.

As for the divorce I live in Canada and it's required by law to be separated for at least a year before a D can be filed. W has yet to have the lawyers draw up the separation agreement due to cost.

Ironically the money arrangement was done to prevent exactly what happened. The idea was we would pool for mortgage, utilities, taxes, cable, food (dinners out), shared activities, movies, zoo, etc. In the event one of us made more then the other we would split the surplus 50/50, eg when she went on mat leave I would split my salary with her so we were always even. I assumed this would make gift giving more meaningful (like when i took us to the dominican last year instead of buying that new laptop, tv or playstation), it also meant we would never have to check with each other for large spending approvals (like her trip to florida last year) and I thought it might help her to budget better. If she had access to all of our funds we would probably be splitting debts now instead of assets. I was never resentful of her spending, I enjoyed being able to take care of her and saving for our future together, I felt it was a way of showing how much she meant to me. The resentment came after she said she was leaving, looking back now at all i gave up for "us". I will definitely take your advice on just sharing everything in the future since my way clearly didn't work out.

Is there anything I can do now to show her the way home is still smooth if she wants to take it?