This is something I copied into my DB notes, it struck a chord with me, posted by AJ on Lois' thread a while back, maybe it will help some:
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The anger? It doesn't go away when you forgive. It doesn't go away with trust rebuilding. The anger goes away when you get your perspective straightened out. When you get over your own disappointment at the events that took place. When you embrace what is vs what you wanted or expected and the gap in between. When you realize that you took a chance and it didn't work out as you expected, but that you'll be ok and likely better as you progress on your journey. When you realize we are all flawed creatures and although we may lie to somebody who trusted us, it doesn't diminish what we felt or wanted to be....
Letting it go is not easy when it's in your face all the time. When you haven't had a chance to regain your perspective. To let your own light shine. To let go of the hurts and expectations you *had*. Forgiveness of the other for not living up to the expectations is not that hard after you regain perspective.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
