moving on

[25yearsmlc]

I have decided after all my db efforts I really don't want this marriage. Train, Starsky, 25 years and the rest of you who forgave your spouses are better than I am because I can't move past the pain of what my H put me through and move forward.


TM,

My h did NOT put me thru what your h put you through, and he sure as heck did not do it while I was carrying his child. I am NO better than you.

Truth be told, I would not have DBd at all if I were in your shoes. My ego would not have been able to cope with a betrayal like that, while pregnant, let alone discovering that I was also OW for his first marriage...just too much to overcome.

I wish you the very best and I hope you will STILL POST HERE in the "Surviving Divorce" forum b/c people need to that they CAN survive this. It's a lot to take.


It's more than I could have handled. Don't put yourself down for your efforts' --you are a better woman than me, for trying at all.


Court date is October 14th and I am going through with the divorce. I feel guilty for letting my kids down but the pain is just too much.

You have NOT let your kids down, your h did.

Furthermore there is a price to all choices. If you were to stay with him your children would pay a price for that, too.

There's a cost to every choice. In YOUR situation, the cost of staying together is too high for You to pay.

In my opinion your children would also pay too high a price b/c of what it would be showing your kids, to stay together. I truly believe, also, that your h would repeat the behavior.

So how on earth would that not affect the kids?

Please keep us posted and know that you are not alone, and we are all rooting for you.