Newcomer living in Hell

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Thanks for the reply. Yes I've read DB. I've gotten rid of the anger. Actually did before I knew any of this. I don't mention any changes to her. But if she were really done, why does she watch me like a hawk. Every time she starts talking bout how she tried so hard, I ask if we can not talk bout the R as we'll end up blaming each other & being resentful. Told her, hey let's just have fun. She said you know that makes sense. Then I told her for what it's worth, I forgave her for the ways she hu rt me in our marriage. She looked away & quietly said thank you. BtW she threw her wedding ring in the fountain at the Bellagio. Despite the fact she says she's forgiven me. Counterintuitive as it seems I've found that I'm happiest when giving selflessly to her & the kids! Can u guess my 'LL? Hers is words of affirmation. I do that a lot but she has closed herself off to that. Oh well gonna continue. Unconditional love hurts but they are worth it.