An example is yesterday I was at work all day so when I went I asked him to Hoover up and empty the dishwasher . When I got home he hadn't done anything but made a mess , ok he had to go to college for a few hours . I ask him why and he said he went to bed when he got home and only just recently woke up. If W was at home this would have resulted in an argument with her defending him saying he is tired and me replying maybe he shouldn't have stayed up till gone midnight watching lost .
South, did you give him a deadline? When I ask my teens to help around the house, I give them a deadline. As in, "I'll be home at 4:00. Please empty the dishwasher before I get home." If you leave it open, they will always intend to get to it later, but sometimes they don't.
Maybe you and W could agree on what's expected of the kids before a situation like this comes up. Seems like you expect a lot (so do I, not saying that's wrong), and she expects nothing. If you could agree on it ahead of time, then you wouldn't be in a position of being at odds in front of S. Of course I realize that might be hard right now......
No I didn't give him a deadline . But thanks for that advice I will try that next time .
Just picked up daughter who had been into town with her mum for a Starbucks . And the W has bought her clothes but can't afford to give me the family allowance from last month. Ohh we'll She did ask daughter how I was coping with the housework and the clothes washing though . Daughter said she replied that I was doing really well .
I find myself feeling sad that she didn't ask how's your dad but I suppose that's to be expected.
Anyway taking daughter to town tonight for a light festival so will make sure we have a great time .
Me 40 W 37 Together 22 years S18 D12 WaW 12/08/14 after affair exposed , suspected for several months W returned home for 2 weeks to see if can handle family life After the 2 weeks she has left .
