I just met with my physician for my annual physical and broke down explaining what has been happening. Uggh.
But as I gathered myself, I kept realizing how much this A is the obstacle. While our M was clearly far from perfect, we had a lot of the ingredients for a great M. We could talk about anything. We were best friends. The sex was great. Granted, we did not have it enough (about once per week) but my W always had at least two Os. Usually three. So to leave a M with both of those ingredients plus some great kids means she really had some big issues percolating that the A has addressed in some way. It is the A that is now keeping her from thinking straight. But unfortunately, there is nothing that I can do to end her A. She has to end it herself. Logic will NEVER trump emotion.
Me: 40, W: 40 M: 15, T: 18 D - 10, S - 7 D announcement 6/7/2014 A discovered 7/20/2014 (but denied by W) Still living together and sharing same bed