I have been following your sitch and can really relate to so much you post. The above posts really hit it on the head for me. It's my biggest struggle, how do we let go and not move too far ahead? My biggest fear is the same as you, to let go and not have my H come looking for me. These posts have really helped to put it in better perspective for me. It really makes so much sense and is the best thing for our own mental health.
Good luck to you, I am rooting for you
Me 48 H 46 S 11 M 2004 BD 8/13 H moved out 2/15 -live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-
