Or, you could use that channel of communication to your benefit. It may seem like "playing games" and it can backfire. I used a back channel like this a few times and it worked. Just be careful and know your consequences. Just because you would never take the kids away from her does not mean you have to tell her that. especially with such a young child in the picture.
M42 W40 T17 M15 S13 S11 BD 7-14 A discovered 7-14 WAW moved out 10-3-14 D final 2-23-15