To DB or not to DB, is it really a question?

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Shakspr:
One thing that helped me detach was asking myself: Am I missing my W or am I missing being married? I think about this often and it gives me a venue to think about my W negatively and to explore the fact that I was in love with being married, not in love with my W. After i sit with this question a while I can "put the negative feelings away" and continue with DB.
Often times this thought process allows me to gauge where I am emotionally. To this day, I still do not have an answer and I dont want one. I simply use it as a mental exercise.