. When you talk with people about your W now, what type of language do you use? When friends and family speak of her, how do they speak of her? Looking forward to more of the story.
To be honest, when I speak with family about her is because they ask me how things are going. I do not even start talking about her. Now, once we start talking we only refer to events like those that took place at the wedding. Also, we talk about issues that happened in the past in front of the family. Few family members dont speak well of her. They will say she is very self-centered. Even her aunt said to me that she is being selfish and manipulative and that she has always been like that. I do NOT talk trash about her, nor allow people to talk bad about her when they are in front of me. As a side note, I never told anybody about our issues before. We always kept everything to ourselves. The very first time I vented out to my parents was at the rehearsal night (refer to the first post). This was because it involved the family directly. Even tho I defended my W, but my family was already affected by the outcome of this unnecessary drama. I took a decision to make her happy, and it hurt me. But I still remained by her side. So, when I speak about my W to family or close friends, I speak with a sense of disbelief and dissapointment. Something like 'I cant believe shes divorcing me for this...' or 'why would she talk to me this way? I havent even cheated on her or abuse her.' I hope this answers your question.
