DayOne - To be honest, I think you're in the wrong forum.

This is a forum for people who want to save their marriages. If the marriage can't be saved, then the journey of going through the methods discussed here will make them a better person and be able to move on and find peace with the end result (divorce).

It seems like you've already made peace with the end result, and have a secondary interest in saving the marriage. Am I wrong?

I'm relatively new here, but that's my 2 cents.

M: 15 years
BD: 6/25/14
EA/PA: starts 5/14/14
11/30/14 - A ends
5/15/15 - D is finalized.
11/28/15 - Start of new LTR with a wonderful woman (and still going strong)!