So I don't get it. You kicked her out, taking the hard - all or nothing approach, etc. Do you really want to save your M? It doesn't sound like it.
I think perhaps you should a) reread the first section. She left, her choice. We discussed and BOTH agreed we need time apart to get our individual selves straight, THEN see if there is still something worth saving and a future. If anything we had more productive conversations over our separation and terms on how to conduct it than we have over anything else recently. I did say that above, but it seems you missed that too.
b) Not be so instantly judgmental based on the information you've read (or as it appears above, NOT read). If you feel there is something you 'don't get', then ask first instead of ass-u-me. I will be willing to discuss, but not have to defend, our situation. If you're unable to respect that, please refrain from contributing any further.
