What were you thinking??!! You actually talked with your W who did OM's laundry at YOUR house??!!!
What a nit!
When I first learned of OW, I was angry and forcefully told Ms. Wonka that OW wasn't allowed to come to the house or near the house. Ms. Wonka understood and got the message loud and CLEARLY. I meant business. Result? She then met up with OW elsewhere. Grrrrr. Damned if I let the OW on or near the property. I cannot imagine seeing Ms. Wonka doing OW's laundry at MY HOUSE.
Forget it!!! Not happening.
You don't need to yell or be demanding at all. You just calmly and firmly state to W that she's not to bring any OM-related stuff or things around the house. And no texting (calling) OM in front of you, in or around the house.
Originally Posted By: Nit
I could have got up and took them out of the washer and proved they were but she has pulled the "I'm afraid of you card" out in the past when I attempted to be somewhat forceful so I didn't need that added into the dynamic again.
Why not?! I would have done it anyway irrespective of W's reaction. Many WAW's throw out the "you're controlling" or "I'm afraid of you" line to get the LBH's to back off on putting in place boundaries on the OM.
I said well when will you be done with OM laundry, still pretty weak I know but at least she now knows that I know she has been doing his laundry.
How is it important that W "knows" that you know she's doing OM's laundry? All of this makes it look like that you're ok with W bring back her boyfriend's laundry back at your MARITAL home. Don't you see how laughable that is, Nit?
The OM's clothes would have been out in the trash bin or thrown out on the yard pronto.
