"Personally I believe he was playing me of against my W all the time . He would ask his mum and if she said she couldn't then he would ask me ."
Really? You're blaming your son. This is is your W and your fault for not being able to communicate in a rationale fashion.
"With W leaving me and my son have grown closer and spend more time together I'm not sure why but I believe it's due to not having the pressure of W watching our every move and how we communicate . "
And you would be wrong. You've gotten closer because you have no choice. Your W isn't there so you two have no choice but to talk to each other. It's what you should have done while your W was there.
Surely this is not the only problem. What others were there?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.