Husband is leaving 2

[MrBond]

Okay, and do you or he have a Facebook account or mutual friends?

[MrBond]

So why weren't you more social before and why weren't you upbeat?

[SamIAm]

Hey MrB: Yes, both H and I do have FB accounts and mutual friends!

I feel like I wasn't more social because I think I somehow lost myself in my marriage. I think H did the same thing. We always felt like we had to do everything together. So, as a result, we ended up doing most things together just the two of us or with his kids. Our lives were just same old, same old.

Because I had lost my sense of self, I think I also may have gotten bored and depressed. I think H was the same way. I think we really got bored with each other and our marriage. We are also both in jobs that we hate and that are not fulfilling, which also contributed to our issues. I think life just really got in the way of our marriage, and we let it happen.

[MrBond]

"I feel like I wasn't more social because I think I somehow lost myself in my marriage."

This is a cop out excuse that many use. M doesn't make someone lose their sense of self. It's a natural evolution to life. You adapt and adjust. There is joy to be found in every stage of life but built on the foundation of your values and principles.

If people continued to act in a M the same way like they were single, there would be alot more divorces.