Validation does not seem to be something that works with my WAH, at least in certain situations. So, I think STFU is the way to go.
Email from WAH: "I'm wondering if the best way of handling drop off tomorrow night is for you to drive D to me on your way home, then leave the car and just walk back to your apt. I don't know if that's ideal, but if it isn't, then perhaps we can discuss when you think you'll be home that evening. It's already been a really long week for me, and I would appreciate it you could drop D off that evening. Let me know what you think."
Some context: If you recall, I had a pretty painful muscle strain a few days ago. Feeling much better, but not 100%. In addition, he changed our schedule this week due to a work commitment, needs to also change it next week, and asked for schedule changes last weekend and this weekend because of personal plans. So, the complaint that "it's been a long week" for him, and the suggestion that I walk home are rich. Oh, yeah, and if you recall, last weekend when he saw me get injured, he refused to keep D for an extra hour or so by saying, "Sorry, I have a lot of work and errands to do"
When he was here picking up D, I said: "I'm sorry you had such a busy week." H: "Why are you sorry?" Me: "I'm not sorry, I guess, I'm just sorry to hear it."
So much for trying to validate. My sitch feels more and more hopeless, because I have more and more trouble finding reasons to continue to stand. Not only because I don't think he'll ever come around, but because I just don't really desire him at all. Maybe this is just inevitable and I should just get on with it and stop dragging it out waiting for the impossible.
Praying for strength, compassion, grace, understanding, perspective.
